Renee Marie Ontiveros' Obituary
Renee Marie Ontiveros, known by her loved ones as Mom, Grandma and Ney Ney was born on October 19, 1954 at St. Luke’s Hospital of San Francisco to Anthony and Edelmira Hernandez . She was their fifth child, and would be an integral part of the family.
On February 10, 2021 at 5:02 p.m. in the University of California, San Francisco Hospital she gave her last breath due to COVID-19 complications and an underlying heart condition.
She is survived by her children: Olisa and Carlos Ruelas, Tanya, Emiliano, and Neita Ontiveros; Grandchildren: Carlos Jr., Joseph, Abram, Sunny, Demetrius, Angelina, Luyanna, Alisha, Mia Angelina,
Amelia and her great grandchildren; Andrina Renee, Leighton, Scarlet, Milah, Ryann, Lyla.
Ney Ney was raised in San Francisco with her 6 siblings: Jennette, Lisa, Herk, Mary Lou, Gilbert, and John. She is the youngest girl and 3rd youngest of the bunch. Her family lived in the Mission, Bernal Heights District. Ney Ney was small, but she was mighty. She had a fire to her that you would experience in every interaction, she was not shy, she was huge in her presence.
Ney Ney became a mother at the age of 15, and shortly after her 2nd child was born. Her journey was one that was not in comparison to the normal life of a 15 year old girl, she was married at a
young age and tried to do what she could for her family. She eventually pursued a career in the nursing field as a certified nursing assistant. While raising her children in the Sunnydale projects this came with many obstacles. Such as socio-economic status, lost loved ones, health ailments and abuse that was not limited to substances.
No matter her obstacles and the barriers in her way, she had a beautiful presence about her. Ney Ney always stayed positive and made sure to keep in contact with her family and friends. There was
a willingness to sacrifice her own comforts for the benefit of others. She was humble, compassionate, courageous, confident, and the strongest woman in the room. These attributes
were a reflection of the life she lived, she was a fighter not by choice but to survive.
In 2001 she overcame some of those obstacles, she found her sobriety in her faith with God. It has been over 19 years since she made the choice to fight and find a new direction for her path. She
trusted God to provide for her and her family, she was a prayer warrior. Ney Ney also was part of the Victory Outreach Women’s homes in Richmond and Oakland, California. While Ney Ney was on
this new journey, she made sure to keep some of what was unique to her such as her red lipstick, high heels and spunky attitude!
Ney Ney we will surely miss your presence, and look forward to that day we meet again!
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