Chapel Of The Chimes Hayward
Sean,I am incapable of looking you in the eye and lucidly expressing my sorrow that your son, my nephew, has passed away; thus this message.Dissonant with any experience of mine is the horror of nursing an innocent child, so deserving of mercy, and being powerless to sustain what so many parents take for granted, life. Compounding this horror is the frustration of describing to a newborn both what is happening and what could have been.The only thing we have in common is that I too am a parent and I too have learned that all forms of love are conditional save the love of a parent for child. I had never felt so vulnerable as I did when I became a parent because I knew for the first time that I had everything to lose. One ordeal has ended, that of Michael Patrick’s brief struggle for life, only to be supplanted by an ordeal that cannot end, that of surviving parents. I wish you the best in coping with your loss, also I hope that you are free from any of the irrational torments of grief that I have heard of such as guilt or shame. Dismiss any such plagues as burdensome delusions.All that could be done was done and Michael knows that now. When you meet again his first words will be, “Thank you, I love you, too.”##imported-begin##Tim##imported-end##