Felmar Cabatit Menor's Obituary
Felmar Cabatit Menor was born in Zambales, Philippines on July 8, 1951. His parents were Marcelino and Feliciana Menor. Felmar had a playful childhood in San Narciso and grew up with four siblings: Ofelia, Babyching, Elenita and Nestor. In his early 20s, Felmar immigrated to the United States in 1973. He first stayed in Chicago with his oldest sister, and got a job at a freight trucking company.
In Chicago, Felmar met his wife, Lourdes. They were married in 1975 and had their first son, Christopher. Later, they stayed in Southern California in the 1980s where they had their second son, Charles, and youngest son, Constantine. The family moved to Jersey City, New Jersey in 1988.
A hard-working father, Felmar took care of his children when his wife worked nightshifts as a nurse in the 90s. He was very supportive of his family and never left their side. He maintained his mental and physical strength and never showed weakness or illness. Felmar was very proud of his culture as a Filipino. He committed to teaching his children care for their health, financial issues, and more importantly their cars.
Felmar was very invested in maintaining the family’s transportation. When his children started driving, Felmar would lecture them on taking care of themselves when they were behind the wheel. He also helped them maintain the vehicles that he passed down to them. He never said it, but Felmar was proud of his kids’ driving due to his lessons as an instructor. It brought him joy and satisfaction that his legacy will be remembered through his teachings.
Felmar was quiet individually, but spoke his mind without regret. Sometimes that caused conflicts while other times it created pure entertainment. He was also an excellent cook, and consistently woke up at the crack of dawn to prepare the family’s day. The aroma of fried fish filled the home and he always had a meal prepared for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. He never showed his feelings on his sleeve, but his caring actions showed his love for family.
In 2007 Felmar moved back to California and started to travel to revisit relatives. Felmar also stayed in the Bay Area for a while to help care for his mother, Feliciana. He was a devout Catholic, went to mass regularly and practiced his faith through service to others. He also attended church festivities with his wife for Peñafrancia. He was recently able to travel back to San Narciso and spent time in his ancestral home. Felmar returned to California and passed away peacefully in his sleep after a brief illness.
Family and friends are invited to pray for Felmar at a viewing and Catholic Mass on Thursday, February 19, 2026 at 9:30 a.m. at St Anne’s Catholic Church, Union City, CA. Burial will immediately follow at Chapel of the Chimes, Hayward, CA.
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